I planned on grading papers this cold blustery Indiana morning….but I did not plan on spending the last two hours filling my head with amazing lesson plans and teaching ideas.
Park or Neutral?
I want to be really honest with all of you and fill you in on a terrible blonde moment I had…and still have at moments.
Now, technically I’m not legit blonde but I tend to have my moments.
A few years ago (or 10+) when I first took my car through a car wash I had no idea you were suppose to put the dang thing in neutral.
So, I rolled up…quite nervous…and put it in park.
Needless to say it caused some serious issues, men yelling at me, a few tears…and total embarrassment.
To this day I think about that moment every single time I drive up to a car wash. I actually don’t like going through car washes at all. It isn’t the fear of being trapped inside at all. It isn’t the noise. It’s actually the set up that absolutely terrifies me.
Every single blessed time they yell at me.
Rightfully so I suppose….I can’t ever seem to do it right.
Some how I can’t get the tires lined up correctly. I’ve also been forgetful and left out the part of putting my car in neutral before. Yes, even after the first incident of putting it in park.
Thursday was really terrifying. It was bitterly cold outside but I knew the Jeep needed washed to at least get the build up of salt gone. So, I decided I would stop in at the car wash before heading home to the nice warm garage and she would be fine.
A little bit of panic set in as I rolled up but I was on the phone with my sister so that helped to calm my nerves. I paid the guy and rolled up further and immediately knew this jack hole with the hose was going to yell because I never get it lined up right. And he did. First he pointed left. Then he pointed right. Then he was shaking his head almost wanting to say to me, “Stupid lady pay attention.”
Finally I got it done and threw it in NEUTRAL. Yes, neutral this time.
Deep breath and I’m in.
Until……
my battery light goes on.
I mean instant panic! What the heck do you do when your battery light goes on in a car wash? Sure those roller thingies will push you right out…but what if they don’t? It’s not like you can get out of your car to go and get help! I would be drenched!
I’m telling my sister and she’s laughing hysterically as I explain that this is the kind of crap that happens to me. She trumps me with the card of, “Oh you didn’t have to pull frozen poop out of your dog’s butt yesterday!” You win sister, you win.
The whole 2 minutes it takes me to go through seems like an eternity as I sit and wonder if I’ll really make it out or be the laughing stock of the Mike’s Car Wash.
Finally, I’m close to Elmo on the swing and that stop light and it’s a green….and the car goes!
HOORAY!
And the battery light finally goes off.
I’m thinking my jeep didn’t like the cold….to hot water….back to cold deal and she complained by throwing up some snotty warning light that freaked me the heck out.
Either way…I’m alive.
And I still hate car washes.
And I have no clue why they always yell at me and can’t just line up my car for me.
And why isn’t there a sign that says PUT IN NEUTRAL….or is there and I just don’t pay attention?
Who knows.
For now I’ll be thankful that I’ve finally figured out the park and neutral deal and also be grateful I made it out of the car wash alive this week. It may be the last time for a while.
Peace,
Family Tree Friday
So, I had a thought a few weeks ago while stuck inside during the Blizzard/Polar Vortex. I was working rapidly on research for our family tree for days. Literally…..days.
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| Harvey |
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| My grandma and her friends (bottom left) |
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| And we have a huge stack of photos with no names. Still haven’t figured out who these people are! |
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| Who is this baby? No idea yet…. still searching! |
10 Habits
Recently I read an article via Facebook entitled “10 Habits of Happy Couples” from Psychology Today.
I read it and thought…..wow….this is so true.
I also thought….wow….we have some things to work on!
You can find the article here.
I knew instantly I had to share it with my guy by the first line….”It starts by going to bed at the same time.”
Anyone else have this trouble? Sometimes turns into an argument? The “you don’t love me anymore because you fall asleep in your chair” argument? No, just me? I’m dramatic, you say? Hmmm…that’s what he says too.
1. Go to bed at the same time. We seem to do this about once in a blue moon. I get up early…he doesn’t. I like to read before bed….he doesn’t. I need lots of beauty sleep….he’s naturally good looking. It’s hard…we need to put forth more effort. I guess either I need to stay up later or he needs to go to bed early. At least start with once or twice a week and maybe work up to every day. 2
2. Cultivate common interests. My guy is really good about this…I’m lucky. We are always trying to find things to do together…even if it means a trip to the grocery.
3. Walk hand in hand or side by side. Love holding hands.
4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode. Trust and forgive. These two are complicated tasks for a stubborn gal like myself. My stubbornness comes naturally and inherited from my sweet family. These two things I certainly can stand to work on at times.
5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong. It would do me some good to look for the positives. Stop worrying about what isn’t. Just be happy. Someone once told me that.
6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work. I use to associate hugs with the painful day of my mother’s funeral viewing. Hug after hug after hug. For hours. Hugs would make me go back there and remember that day and how much I despised the sympathy implied with those hugs…sympathy I didn’t want….because I didn’t want to wake up and realize she was really gone. My guy gives the best hugs. I’m getting a lot better at appreciating his hugs because they are so wonderful. He can always give me that feeling that everything will be okay.
7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning. I love hearing those words. The day just doesn’t seem right without them.
8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel. There’s no feeling worse than a night without these words. Just seems unsettling. And for a worry wart like me I just can’t sleep. I’m so glad they are hardly ever.
9. Do a “weather” check during the day. Always nice to check in with him. Sometimes it can’t happen until lunch, but just to check in and make sure he’s doing okay.
10. Be proud to be seen with your partner. We belong together and everyone should know it.
After reading this, I realize how incredibly fortunate I am to have this man in my life. Sure there are days he drives me nuts….but honestly I don’t know what I’d do without those moments. Even when he is driving me nuts, he is always putting a smile on my face.
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| He is so special. |
A new low.
Shiloh has hit an all time low.
Routine
Apparently it’s back to real life tomorrow. Back to a routine.
A routine which I long for getting rid of at the end of each quarter at work. Then after two weeks off….even THREE weeks off….I’m longing to get back to.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who craves a routine of some sort. Heck no I don’t like waking up at 5 am again and I’m seriously dreading that part of it. However, I sleep better…eat healthier…and get more done when I have some structure in my life.
Now, don’t get me wrong I absolutely loved our Christmas break and even more so the POLAR VORTEX week long vacation. Thank you Mother Nature! I read a couple of books. (Highly recommend The Longest Ride by Nicholas Sparks.) I got so much accomplished while researching some family history. My was spotless for a few days. That felt good. I made a bunch of home cooked meals, including some vegetable beef soup and other various recipes from Pinterest which included the good ole crockpot. I blogged it up. I put Christmas decorations away but left my snowman stuff out. I spent an evening in the hospital with my best friend snuggling her new baby boy. I spent time with family and friends.
Then, the polar vortex hit and I didn’t leave the house for 4 whole days. I think it’s the longest ever for me. Sunday when the storm approached we took a 9 mile trip northeast on the snowmobile to play in the snow with some friends.
That was to be my last time ever to see the sun or smell fresh air for 4 freaking days. 4 very long days. Day 1 and 2…not so bad. Day 3…a little anxious. Day 4….almost meltdown mode. It was great to relax, read, and do some research. I just needed some interaction. I forgot how much I crave social interaction….even if it is with little people.
First thing Friday morning I went and worked out . Felt so good. Had been forever. It’s going to really hurt when I get back in full routine next week. Then, I visited the sister and her littles as well as some friends and their littles. Fun play date with some yummy lunch and most importantly….INTERACTION!
Friday night I got to see this little beauty do her thing and dance with her group.. As usual, she was amazing!
And then Saturday we drove up to Michigan for my guy’s work Christmas party (yes, I realize it’s a few days late…). Dinner in a little town hole in the wall delicious restaurant. Then a drive back down into Indiana for a little ride on a 1/4 mile toboggan run. Our record…..30 mph.
Up and down 3 times for this girl.
Bloglovin
Part of my daily reading involves my Bloglovin app where I get to check in on all my favorite blogs. The list is growing…rapidly.
New ink
Over the past few months I’ve been spending a little bit of time here and there with Ed at a little shop in Knightstown called Bull Dog Ink.
You see, many many years ago while down in Ft. Myers, Florida I made a pretty senseless decision while consuming adult beverages and hanging on the beach with my good friend Katie. We both thought it would be a grand idea to get some ink while on vacation……. though we had no plans or thoughts as to what we would get. Katie ended up with angel wings behind her ear (which she says now look nothing like it) and I ended up with this…
Now, you may be wondering WHAT the above is.
Well, I’ll tell you what it was suppose to be.
Warning, even what it was suppose to be is extremely stupid.
I wanted a capital letter A (gothic style) with a princess crown on top and a heart at the bottom. Incredibly stupid. Dumb. Childish. Stupid.
Did I say stupid?
Instead, I was left with a big freaking blob on my back to which everyone always asked, “What is that?”
Usually I replied, “Well it was suppose to be….blah blah….I was possibly intoxicated….in Florida…it was free.”
Great story, right?
WRONG!
I was getting really sick of answering that question. I wanted to make it something meaningful. I thought about it for years….YEARS!
Which, by the way, is exactly what you should do when thinking about a tattoo.
This was my 5th tattoo which covers up my 2nd tattoo. My first one I thought for several days about. (probably not long enough but I still love it….) My wrist tattoo I thought for a long time on and my foot tattoo the same. I love my tattoo’s and believe it or not, my guy has none. He has no desire for tattoo’s and still loves me.
If I can give any advice to my children or the youth of America in reference to tattoo’s it would have to be THINK ABOUT IT. Be absolutely sure you want it, you are okay with the location of it, and you’re good with it being there forever. I may definitely regret mine when I’m old and they sag and wrinkle and look disgusting…who knows. I’m not too worried about it at this point.
I don’t encourage children to get them. In fact, most of mine are completely hidden at my job. Even if they are seen, they have nothing to do with my “work performance” either and some people will certainly disagree with that.
I officially love ALL my tattoo’s because I made a big change. They all have heart felt meaning and are filled with memories. For this, I am grateful.
I contacted Ed at Bulldog Ink and told him that I wanted to cover up this mess with a collage of things about my mom. I mentioned that we both played piano and loved music. I mentioned that I loved when she planted bleeding hearts. It was one of our favorite plants. I mentioned that she loved tulips in the spring. I mentioned that her and my father’s wedding flowers included stephanotis. I also mentioned that everytime I saw a butterfly I felt like it was her watching over me in some way. I also mentioned the same thing about cardinals…every time I see one I swear it’s my mom.
So he sent me this drawing and I just about died….
Just seeing the rough draft I was floored. It was exactly what I wanted, and more!
The first appointment was ROUGH I tell you ROUGH! Everyone always asks me, “Does it hurt?” To which I really want to reply Ed’s response…”No, it feels like unicorns licking my back.”
YES, it hurts! Some of it is more painful than others. I think it is different for everyone. I hate any location near my neck or spine. On my foot it was the side of my foot that was worse than the top. Like I said, probably different for everyone.
After the first appointment I had this…
I’ll admit. After the appointment was over I was a little worried about how that lovely little A was actually going to cover up. I had faith in Ed, but it was hard for me to picture. You’ll see he’s basically a tattoo genius because he had the eye and totally knew what he was doing.
3 or so weeks of healing and I went back for round 2. Round 2 actually wasn’t that bad at all. In fact, I got a ton of online shopping done for Christmas. I read several chapters in my book. I just chilled for about 3 hours while the needle hit my back.
Then I had this…
The above photo doesn’t really give it the justice it deserves. The greens were and are so very bright. The shading is incredible. The piano keys obviously came to life and I was amazed!
Over 4 weeks later I went back and was looking forward to hopefully seeing the end result. I wasn’t sure if another 3 hour session would get it done, but I was happy to sit that long if it did!
This time was definitely more painful than the second session. The bleeding hearts below my neck….ouch. The tulips down there on my spine….ouch. The butterfly was not nearly as bad as I thought.
Still, I feel like a champ. I read about 12 chapters in my book. Stalked people on social media. Chatted with Ed a bit…and let him do his thing.
Then, he was finished.
And you can’t even tell what was there before. That makes it even better!
The red flowers are the bleeding hearts…..the flowers I always begged my mom to buy and plant in our flower beds.
The yellow tulips because she loved them so much.
The white (somewhat bleeding in the above pic….very fresh!) flowers are stephanotis and were a part of the bouquets in my mom and dad’s wedding. I’ve seen pictures and still have their wedding announcement which is WAY more detailed than what we have today.
The butterfly because she is always with me, but I feel it most when I see those.
The piano keys because music was a connection we will forever have. When I sit down to play, even now, I think of her and sometimes cry. I know playing piano made her proud because she loved to play herself. I know she loved to hear me play. It was and still is a huge part of my life and a part that makes me think of her.
There is no cardinal on this tattoo even though I wanted one. Ed basically told me that to look correct the cardinal would have to be GIGANTIC in relation to the flowers to make sense and although I love cardinals…I don’t think I want a huge one on my back with an already large back tattoo.
Maybe another one….maybe next time.,…..maybe not.
Some people say tattoos are addicting. I wouldn’t say addicting. I just think for people who like to express themselves it is a way of doing so. It’s a way for me to permanently display the things that I love and who I am.
I wasn’t planning on a large back tattoo to cover up the mistake from Florida. However, I did ask a lot of Ed. For what I wanted to cover up….and what I wanted….it was going to be “go big or go home.”
I’m pleased, to say the least, with my tattoo. It is incredible and I’m so very blessed to have met someone with amazing creativity.
Fortunate to have a wonderful tattoo artist Ed and friend Hannah who hooked me up,
I’m that person.
I’m that person who pisses everyone off in this weather.
I drive like an old lady and brake more than I really should.
I keep an extremely safe distance between me and the peeps in front of me.
I drive at 10 and 2 and my knuckles are white.
I have anxiety the entire time I’m behind the wheel in this weather.
I have a headache by the time I get home from clenching my teeth.
I’m that person that drives everyone nuts. That everyone screams, “Come on! It’s just a little snow! You live in Indiana! You should be able to handle it!”
Truth is….I can’t handle it.
Ever since that car accident back in winter of 2002 I have been unable to cope while driving with confidence in this weather. I’m scared to death that I’m going to spin out of control and wind up head on with a tree again.
So, there you have it. That’s why I’m that person in this weather.
Give me a break!
Now….I do enjoy this weather for a variety of reasons. Sledding, maybe even skiing if we can ever get away, and especially snowmobiling with my sweetie.
We got to cruise around tonight and enjoyed a little ride together. He makes me a nervous wreck usually going too fast and enjoying hearing me squeal and nag him. It’s all part of his plan to get me to squeeze him a little tighter.
Even though I’m “that” person on the road I can enjoy the weather from the safety of the backseat with my man or from the comfort of our home.
Be safe everyone!
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Today is…
Today is the first blank page of a 365 page book.






































